how do you start your day?

⁣“𝐀𝐧𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝗼𝐮 𝐩𝐮𝐭 𝐚𝐛𝗼𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝗼𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝗼𝐛𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐭𝐲 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐛𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 2𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝗼𝐮 𝐥𝗼𝗼𝐬𝐞“ I remember when I first heard those words in #treatment⁣

Not a moment goes by that I don’t remember them. Therefore, my life revolves around my #recovery NOT the other way around...⁣

So, this is what my morning looks like, while #meditation music is playing and yummy white sage is burning...⁣

We don’t graduate, we never finish. Our #graduation day is the day we leave this earth. Recovery is a life long process...⁣

In order for you to maintain the #sobriety that you worked so hard to achieve, you absolutely must take care of you and your needs above all others....⁣

Life gets “lifey”, I get it! However, not being able to find ways to put your #recovery first can put your hard earned sobriety in jeopardy...⁣

Recovery entails continually working on the character defects that had kept you stuck in addiction as well as repairing and restoring the relationships with family and friends that were compromised as a result of your substance abuse. ⁣

When you are actively taking steps to take care of yourself and are adequately taking care of your needs, you are better able to be of #service to others and you will be able to truly connect with others on a deeper level...⁣


eating healthy-skinny coconut shrimp...

if you are like me, now that you are sober, you def. want to make sure that you are putting the best foods in your body. for many, our nutrition was tossed out the door because, well, we drank our breakfast, lunch and dinner (well at least I did!)
if you like shrimp & coconut, you will LOVE this recipe! this is a super easy, quick, clean and delish meal- enjoy

1 lb. peeled, deveined, tail-off, large shrimp (frozen is fine if you thaw)
1/2 cup dry coconut flakes, no added sugar
1/2 cup whole wheat Panko bread crumbs (or make your own with this recipe)
1 1/2 tsp. garlic powder
1 1/2 tsp. onion powder
2 egg whites
2 tsp. coconut oil
1 – pat the shrimp dry with a paper towel if they are damp or wet.
2 – in a medium mixing bowl, whisk together the egg whites and the coconut oil.
3 – in a separate medium sized mixing bowl, whisk together the coconut flakes, bread crumbs, garlic and onion powder.
4 – drop the shrimp in the egg whites and give them a good stir.
5 – pick them out (I used my hands), allowing them to drip off a bit of the excess and drop them in the dry coconut mixture.
6 – shake them around until they are coated and then place them individually on a parchment lined cookie sheet.
7 – bake at 350 for 20 minutes (no more!). They should be lightly golden brown.
i ate mine over a bed of fresh spinach.....delish!! 
** if you like HOT stuff, use some rooster sauce for dipping :)


transformation tuesday...


𝕀𝕟 𝕤𝕚𝕔𝕜𝕟𝕖𝕤𝕤 & 𝕚𝕟 𝕙𝕖𝕒𝕝𝕥𝕙... 𝕒𝕝𝕨𝕒𝕪𝕤 𝕓𝕪 𝕞𝕪 𝕤𝕚𝕕𝕖 💞⁣

𝙱𝚎𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚘𝚐𝚎𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛 𝚏𝚘𝚛 𝟸𝟿 𝚢𝚎𝚊𝚛𝚜, 𝚑𝚎 𝚔𝚗𝚎𝚠 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚐𝚒𝚛𝚕 𝚑𝚎 𝚖𝚎𝚝 𝚊𝚝 𝚊𝚐𝚎 𝟷𝟻, 𝚠𝚑𝚘 𝚘𝚗𝚌𝚎 𝚕𝚒𝚟𝚎𝚍 𝚒𝚗 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚋𝚘𝚍𝚢 𝚠𝚊𝚜 𝚒𝚗 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚎, 𝚜𝚘𝚖𝚎𝚠𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚎 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚠𝚊𝚜 𝚜𝚝𝚘𝚙𝚙𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚊𝚝 𝚗𝚘𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚘 𝚐𝚎𝚝 𝚑𝚎𝚛 𝚋𝚊𝚌𝚔!⁣

𝚃𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚠𝚊𝚜 𝚊 𝚝𝚛𝚒𝚙 𝚝𝚘 𝙽𝚈 & 𝙽𝙹...⁣
𝙸 𝚛𝚎𝚖𝚎𝚖𝚋𝚎𝚛 𝚐𝚘𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚒𝚗𝚝𝚘 𝚆𝚑𝚘𝚕𝚎 𝙵𝚘𝚘𝚍𝚜.... ⁣
𝙽𝙾 𝙒𝙄𝙉𝙀?? 𝙸 𝚠𝚊𝚜 𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎, 𝚙𝚞𝚝 𝚖𝚢 𝚊𝚜𝚜 𝚋𝚊𝚌𝚔 𝚘𝚗 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚙𝚕𝚊𝚗𝚎!!! 𝚃𝚑𝚎𝚗 𝚠𝚎 𝚠𝚎𝚛𝚎 𝚝𝚘𝚕𝚍 𝚒𝚗 𝙽𝙹 𝚊𝚕𝚌𝚘𝚑𝚘𝚕 𝚠𝚊𝚜 𝚘𝚗𝚕𝚢 𝚜𝚘𝚕𝚍 𝚒𝚗 𝚕𝚒𝚚𝚞𝚎𝚛 𝚜𝚝𝚘𝚛𝚎𝚜... ⁣
𝚃𝚑𝚊𝚝’𝚜 𝚠𝚑𝚎𝚗 𝙸 𝚍𝚎𝚌𝚒𝚍𝚎𝚍 𝙸 𝚠𝚘𝚞𝚕𝚍 𝚗𝚎𝚟𝚎𝚛 𝚕𝚒𝚟𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚎 🙄 𝙸𝚜𝚗’𝚝 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚠𝚊𝚢 𝚠𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚔??


how the hell did I become a wino...

where the hell do i even begin...
i have been putting this off for a while because for one, where & how do i even begin and two, when you’re a blackout drinker, it’s hard as hell to remember a lot of what happened towards the end of my “career” and well, that makes it next to impossible write about it without a lot of thought, and lots of input from my dear husband. bless his heart...

i somehow can remember can't remember last week when i was a little girl, probably 5-6 yrs old, sitting in my pawpaws lap, thinking i was the shit getting to take a sip of his "miller pony"... it was so tiny and cute, fun sized like me.  just a sip, every now and again over time. it was always fun trying to sneak it without my granny seeing because when he got caught, he would get cussed out, bless his heart. i pray he is in heaven enjoying a pony not getting bitched at by ole granny...

i was the normal girl in high school, i would drink on weekends and smoke everybody’s weed, any day of the week. there other drugs throughout the years but nothing i ever thought much about. i wasn’t the one to ever buy that kind of stuff but any drug that was offered to me, i didn’t think twice about taking. the first time i smoked weed, it was with my aunt... i figured if a family member, who is an adult, offered, it couldn't be that bad. ha, first clue i was a dumbass {fyi, don't write about it in a letter in school and forget about it and have your mom find it, then aunt and you are both a little fucked! as you can see, i've always been uber smart}

i was 15, a sophomore in highschool when i met my husband at a corner gas station. to clarify, i was out walking around town with a friend, probably looking for weed & beer, not working the corner... proof that true love can be found almost anywhere when you least expect it. my friend knew him and introduced us... cute, tall, skater boy, yep, i'll take him for today... we were off to the races. {for about 4-5 months} he is who taught me how to drive my first stick shift car and showed me how a female was to be treated. however, he was too nice... guys just are not supposed to be like this... was he even human?? i was not use to being catered to and treated like a princess, wtf was wrong with this guy? therefore, after a few months, i kicked his poor sweet ass to the curb, {what the fuck was i even thinking??} this should have been my first clue that drinking and drugging weren't exactly the best thing for my pea brain, i should have started doing the opposite of what i thought/wanted to do... took me a few years to wake the efffff up and realize that HE is what a guy/man should be and i was just too fucked up to realize it... ahem, but in the end this nice guy actually finished first. this is when i’m totally convinced that vanessa williams top hit, save the best for last, was personally written for us, she still doesn't even know it...more about my prince charming later...

i am breaking this down into many many many posts, i hate to read long winded shit so i assume everyone is like me...
part 2 of 257,098 tomorrowish  and it will be video so you can here how eloquent {redneck} i sound....

stay so sober my friends,
xoxo daph

Speaker Night with Brad D


need an A.A. meeting??

 𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝗼𝐮 𝗺𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝗺𝐞𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝗼𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐞𝗺𝐢𝐜

𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝗼𝐮 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐭𝗼 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝗼𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐝𝗼𝐧𝐭 𝐤𝐧𝗼𝐰 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝗼 𝐛𝐞𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐂𝗼𝗺𝐞𝐣𝗼𝐢𝐧 𝐮𝐬 𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐧𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐘𝗼𝐮 𝐝𝗼𝐧𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝗼 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐥 𝐲𝗼𝐮𝐫𝐜𝗼𝗺𝐟𝗼𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐲𝗼𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝗼𝐟𝐟 𝐲𝗼𝐮𝐫 𝐯𝐢𝐝𝐞𝗼𝐂𝗼𝗺𝐞 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫 𝗼𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐭𝐡 & 𝐡𝗼𝐩𝐞💞

📢Come share⁣

👂🏼Come listen⁣

👨‍👨‍👧‍👧come enjoy some sober #fellowship ⁣

👩🏻‍💻Zoom with Brad (@just_brad_mmxv) myself and the rest of our #sobertribe each evening 💖

5pm PST / 7pm CST / 8pm EST / 1am London ⁣

Comment below or email me for the password at nomowinodaph@gmail.com

Meeting ID: 869-089-3245⁣

Hope to see y'all soon😉

Much Love, Daph 😘